Discover your attachment style …
What is Attachment theory?
Attachment theory, developed by psychologist John Bowlby and later expanded by Mary Ainsworth states that the bonds formed between infants & their primary caregivers significantly influence emotional & relational patterns through out a person’s life. The core idea is that early experiences with caregivers shape an individual’s expectations and behaviours in relationship.
Key Concepts of Attachment Theory:
2. Attachment styles: Based on early interactions with caregivers, individuals typically develop one of four primary attachment styles:
Secure Attachment: Characterised by comfort with intimacy & a strong sense of trust in relationships. Individuals with this style feel safe to express their emotions & seek support.
Anxious Attachment: Marked by a preoccupation with relationships & a fear of abandonment. Individuals often seek constant reassurance & may be overly sensitive to their partner’s signals.
Avoidant Attachment: Characterised by a reluctance to depend on others & a preference for emotional distance. Individuals may struggle with intimacy & express discomfort with closeness.
Disorganised Attachment: Often resulting from inconsistent or traumatic caregiving, this style combines elements of both anxious & avoidant attachment. Individuals may feel confusion or fear regarding intimacy & relationships.
2. Internal Working Models: These are mental frameworks formed in early childhood based on interactions with caregivers. They influence how individuals perceive themselves, their relationships & the world around them. A secure attachment leads to a positive self-esteem & trust in others, while insecure attachments can lead to negative self-perceptions & difficulties in relationships.
3. Impact on Adult Relationships: Attachment styles established in childhood often carry into adult romantic relationships affecting how individuals communicate, handle conflict & express emotional needs. Understanding one’s attachment style can provide insights into relationship dynamics & help individuals work towards healthier dynamics.
Overall, attachment theory emphasises the importance of early relationships in shaping emotional development & interpersonal dynamics throughout life. It provides a framework for understanding how past experiences influence current behaviour & relationships.
The Interplay Spectrum of Attachment …
N.b/ When working with clients I don’t necessarily classify them into their attachment style, but rather look into where they might be placed on the above spectrum. …Supporting clients to recreate safety in the middle ground is optimal.
Adult Attachment Style Quiz.
NOTE: The following quiz is is a simple self-assessment tool & should not replace professional evaluation or therapy. Individuals seeking a deeper understanding of their attachment styles may benefit from discussing their results with a therapist.
